I know, I know. Another blog post about the most needed, hated, adored, freighting thing of all time.....love. But let's face it, with all the different opinions, experiences, and fairy tales that we've all experienced its kinda nice to gain a different perspective about it. Whether its from a biblical standpoint or comes from observing a functioning relationship, there are so many opinions and viewpoints about it, that its kinda hard not to get wrapped into the phenom.
With Valentines Day quickly approaching, I thought I'd share my two cents on the topic. You ready? Well here it go! lol
So, I'm single. And have been for a LONG time. I would love to be in a relationship with someone who compliments me and makes me want to be a better person, who knows God and lives to be that 1 Peter 3 type of husband, and I his Prov 31 wife, so that we can live that 1 Cor 7 life! But am I in a rush for it? No! It so easy to be discouraged. Seeing images of people who are in love and seemingly happy, and not being able to have that same joy. But its important to realize that not everyone who is in a relationship is happy or has companionship. Some are just as lonely as some single folk! And please understand that just because someone is single, does not mean that they are lonely. It is very possible to be alone, but not be lonely.
So whats the solution? Well, I'm no expert and I get discouraged and lonely just like the next person, but from my personal experience, I can tell you this. You are alone for a reason. There is something that the Lord wants you to work on about yourself before he sends you "the one". Learn to be content with yourself. If you cant stand to be around you, he/she wont either! I know thats an old cliche, but it's oh so true. Be able to answer the question "what do you look for in a man/woman?" I'm 28 and still struggle with an answer to this question. Until I can confidently answer this question and not just say what sounds good, then I have no choice but to remain single. How can you want something, but not know what it is you're asking for? When you get your answer, pray and ask God to not only send him/her to you, but to prepare you for their arrival.
Get a life. Dont just sit around and complain about being alone and how you want to be with someone (Honestly, I struggle with this myself and I have to catch myself). Get involved in something! Church activities, civic organizations, volunteer work, learn a new recipe, walk a dog, do something! Nobody, and I mean nobody (thats worth being with, anyway) wants somebody whose whole life revolves around their mate. There's nothing sexy about that. Ewww. You will be surprised the people you meet or the things that you find out about yourself when you start to do new things. I, for example, volunteer with the YWCA, watching the battered women's children while they attend group sessions. Those kids bring so much joy to my life. I get to teach and show them things that they wouldnt normally get to see or hear. See, I'm a firm believer that we all go through certain experiences just for the sole purpose of teaching someone else the lesson. Never keep your gifts, knowledge, and lessons all to yourself. Help someone else grow!
Ok, well I would keep going, but I'm trying to keep my posts readable. Dont want to lose anyone (if anyone even reads them) in gibberish. lol
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Monday, February 13, 2012
Friday, October 28, 2011
The Moment
Sooo, I'm like super emotional right now and I thought I would share my testimony with you all. SOME of you may know that I believe that in every lesson learned, we must share our knowledge and experience with others to help them grow and learn with us. God puts us in certain situations not only for ourselves, but for the people in our lives. I play a lot, and I love to laugh, but often times, especially earlier in the year, I was laughing to keep from crying.
Throughout my life, I have experienced some pretty difficult times. From my mom being sick when I was in high school, and me having to take care of her and the house, to a difficult situation I had while in college, and recently being without a job and not knowing how my bills would get paid. But through each situation, I learned to have unyielding faith and believe in His promise to never leave or forsake me. Sure, I've worried, stressed, and cried myself to sleep on many nights, but I had to remember how he brought me out of my previous situations and how BIG my blessings were in the end. BIG blessings! BIG blessings! BIG blessings! Do you hear me?!
During the situation with my mom, it was hard for me to put my money into paying house bills while all my friends who had jobs were able to do what they wanted with theirs. In college, it was hard to watch someone I loved, love someone else, and of course it was hard having to ask people for help when I'm so used to being independent and self sufficient. On top of that, no one believed that I really needed help! lol But in each of those, what I gained, was much more than I would've imagined. I learned how to be woman and take care of a house and my business, I learned the power of forgiveness, and I learned humility. Never doubt God or his works. What He is doing is more than our simple minds can decipher.
I use my commute to work as my "perspective" time. I think about whatever is going on with me and try to put a plan together (I guess that's why I love road trips? lol) So this morning I was just thinking about how far I've come, the things I've learned, and the people that have come into my life, and I am just so grateful.I never would've thought that the way things were going for me 6 months ago, that I would be as happy as I am right now. But I guess it wasn't for me to know. God just wants us to trust him, and when you do He will do incredible things in your life.
I guess the moral of the story is, whatever your situation, no matter how hard or difficult, think about the last time you felt this way. Didn't he bring you through? It is human nature to worry and stress, but you have to be able to keep your faith and open yourself to learn the lesson he is trying to teach you and prepare for that BIG blessing waiting for you in the end. Find someone who you can trust and share your feelings, write them out, you can call me if you want. lol Just have a release of some sort and hold on. I hope this helps someone who may need this.
OK, I'm done *drops mic*
Throughout my life, I have experienced some pretty difficult times. From my mom being sick when I was in high school, and me having to take care of her and the house, to a difficult situation I had while in college, and recently being without a job and not knowing how my bills would get paid. But through each situation, I learned to have unyielding faith and believe in His promise to never leave or forsake me. Sure, I've worried, stressed, and cried myself to sleep on many nights, but I had to remember how he brought me out of my previous situations and how BIG my blessings were in the end. BIG blessings! BIG blessings! BIG blessings! Do you hear me?!
During the situation with my mom, it was hard for me to put my money into paying house bills while all my friends who had jobs were able to do what they wanted with theirs. In college, it was hard to watch someone I loved, love someone else, and of course it was hard having to ask people for help when I'm so used to being independent and self sufficient. On top of that, no one believed that I really needed help! lol But in each of those, what I gained, was much more than I would've imagined. I learned how to be woman and take care of a house and my business, I learned the power of forgiveness, and I learned humility. Never doubt God or his works. What He is doing is more than our simple minds can decipher.
I use my commute to work as my "perspective" time. I think about whatever is going on with me and try to put a plan together (I guess that's why I love road trips? lol) So this morning I was just thinking about how far I've come, the things I've learned, and the people that have come into my life, and I am just so grateful.I never would've thought that the way things were going for me 6 months ago, that I would be as happy as I am right now. But I guess it wasn't for me to know. God just wants us to trust him, and when you do He will do incredible things in your life.
I guess the moral of the story is, whatever your situation, no matter how hard or difficult, think about the last time you felt this way. Didn't he bring you through? It is human nature to worry and stress, but you have to be able to keep your faith and open yourself to learn the lesson he is trying to teach you and prepare for that BIG blessing waiting for you in the end. Find someone who you can trust and share your feelings, write them out, you can call me if you want. lol Just have a release of some sort and hold on. I hope this helps someone who may need this.
OK, I'm done *drops mic*
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