We've all heard the expression "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" but what does this really mean? What is too much? When is enough, enough?
We all know that there are some things that a man or woman must do to attract and keep their mate, but what is the cut off? Do you just give them "taste" of all the things that you can do and make a promise to continue those things in full force after marriage? Since we all (should) know that simply verbalizing your greatness is never sufficient... I get so confused by all of this!
I think that it's best to have an understanding of who the person is, what they have to offer, and how much of that they are willing to give to you. I can be the best darn cook in the state, but if I'm unwilling to cook for you, it wont benefit you much to be with me if you're looking for someone to cook your meals. She can have the best paying job of all time, but if she's not willing to share her money with you, it would be pretty useless to date her for it. Having an understanding of one another alleviates the need to play games or always having to guess or assume your relationship status.
Having open and honest discussions about you and your mate's expectations, is a good way to prevent confusion and frustration down the road. It may be hard to tell someone exactly what you really want, due to the fact that you don't want to run them away, but once that fear is eliminated, you'd be suprised about the other person's response. It may turn out better than you think. Ladies, how often have you heard or experienced meeting a guy and asking him "What are you looking for?" and he says "I'm not looking for anything" and you say "Oh ok, neither am I. I'm just going with the flow". Knowing good and well that you've planned every detail of you wedding already and you're just waiting to find someone to fulfil it with. lol Next time try being honest, it may run a few guys away, but isn't that a good thing if he isnt trying to give you what you want? But then again, it just may actually get you what you want! Stop giving away all your milk! It's way too valuable for charity!
What are your thoughts on this?